One of the greatest misfortunes in life is the loss of self. Most people experience it at some point in their lives, and honestly, it can be a very depressing time. 

Perhaps you’ve spent most of your time doing for others, such as for your family and children, and you feel like you lost sight of who you are. You’ve set aside your goals and hobbies – the things that ignite your fire and make you feel more whole – and as a result, you’ve lost a big part of yourself that you valued and identified with. What do you do when this happens?

When you feel lost in who you are, I believe that the best and first step is to go back to innocence.

As you go throughout this journey in your life, you are met with both the “good” and the “bad.” You accumulate 

Actually, the original, full title of this article is, “Yes, I'm Spiritual, You Idiot!”: The Art of Balancing a Spiritual Life with Your Physical Life. I thought that this title is a pretty accurate illustration of the reality of this life for most having this human experience. You know you are a part of something greater and you seek to connect with it, but it can be quite difficult to maintain it. 

You may read books that inspire a spiritual awakening, remind you to be mindful, help you to accept yourself and the moment, or understand the power of your thoughts. These books do help to bring you into the energy of amazing grace and greater joy, but then, as many say, "life happens." 

Someone cuts you off while driving, your kids push your buttons, your boss makes you feel undervalued, and suddenly all that “Zen” you felt goes out the window and you are calling someone a jerk or yelling at your kids. You've "lost it." 

But did you really lose that spiritual connection? Where and why did it go? You know that you are a "spiritual 

Have you noticed certain patterns of events or circumstances happening over and over in your life? 

Perhaps you keep ending up in the same type of bad relationships or getting betrayed by someone you trust. Maybe you keep encountering difficult people and you wonder why it is that someone is always giving you a “hard time.” Or maybe you are a woman who has had multiple unsuccessful pregnancies, while others seem immediately able to conceive without any issues.

And you find yourself asking, “Why does this keep happening to me?”

In one of the sessions with Spirit, from the book Love is the Seed: Teachings from the Spirit World they describe the human experience as a series of psychodramas. These psychodramas are created before birth for the sake of learning. They are created for two purposes: to resolve a debt (karma) or for the act of love, and in both cases are out of love.

A first step to improving your life and transforming aspects that are not benefiting you is recognizing these